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I have lost many loved ones in my life.

It began with the passing of my grandmother followed the next day by the passing of my mother when I was 6 years old.

Three years and a few months later I lost my entire family because of adoption.

I have lost many loved ones (adoptive family members, friends and a dog) to death thereafter.

I was reunited with my natural family after 27 years of separation. I’ve learned my father and brother died during the years of separation. The reunion ended up with another separation due to the distance, language and culture barrier.

My cat died after having lived 16 years with me. He was the only living thing I had for 12 years. He stayed with me 8 years more than my natural family and 4 years more than my adoptive family had stayed with me.

I felt a deep pain everytime I lost someone.

In my experiences losing a loved one because of adoption is an everlasting grief and it’s like if the person is dying everyday, while losing a loved one because of death is a temporary grief.

Yet when you lose someone because of adoption, people tell you that you’re lucky and you shoud be grateful, while when you lose someone because of death, they offer you their condolences.

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